In Brisbane’s western suburbs, where community ties run deep and stories are often measured in generations, a couple have quietly marked an extraordinary milestone built on love, faith and shared life. On a warm December afternoon, family and friends gathered beneath the gentle hum of conversation and laughter to celebrate something increasingly rare: a marriage that has lasted 70 years. At the centre of it all sat Max and Freda Kanowski, side by side, exactly as they had been since the summer of 1955.
For Max and Freda, now residents of Upper Brookfield after many years in Indooroopilly, the celebration was more about people than milestones. Letters of congratulations arrived from the King and Queen of the UK, the Prime Minister and the Governor-General of Australia, and the state Premier — formal acknowledgements of a life lived quietly but well.
Yet it was the presence of children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and lifelong friends that mattered most.
Their platinum wedding anniversary was marked with a lunch at St Peter’s Lutheran College’s P&F Centre, where guests travelled from near and far — including as far as Mount Gambier — to honour a couple whose lives have been deeply woven into the fabric of the western suburbs. Traditional German sausages were served, stories flowed freely, and the room was filled with the easy warmth that comes only from decades of shared history.
Parallel Childhoods, One Shared Path
Their story began long before they met, shaped by parallel childhoods in rural Queensland. Both grew up riding horses to small country schools, their early years marked by the constraints of wartime Australia, when distance and circumstance limited travel and connection. They did not know of each other then, but their lives were already following remarkably similar paths.
It was at St Peter’s Lutheran College, where both boarded, that those paths finally crossed. In a small, close-knit school community, friendship came first. Romance followed slowly, deepening further during their years studying at the University of Queensland in the early 1950s. At times separated, they wrote letters—thoughtful, patient exchanges that reflected a relationship built on mutual respect and shared values.
As Max later joked to family and friends, it eventually became clear to everyone around them that they were, in his words, “a full item.”
A Wedding Close to Family
They were married on 21 December 1955 at Phillip Street Lutheran Church in Toowoomba, chosen for its closeness to extended family on the Darling Downs. It was a hopeful post-war moment, full of promise and practical ambition. Early married life was modest and industrious: Max dug the foundations for their first home himself, sourcing timber through friends, while Freda balanced work and the demands of building a future from the ground up. Their honeymoon was brief — a few days camping near Coffs Harbour — before everyday life resumed.
That everyday life soon became full and lively. Four sons — David, Mark, Anthony and Peter — were raised in Indooroopilly in a household shaped by education, music and faith. Max pursued his academic career, eventually becoming a Professor of Classical Antiquities, while Freda worked as a librarian. Together, they fostered curiosity, discipline and a deep appreciation for learning.
Those values have echoed through generations. Their descendants have gone on to achieve excellence across a range of fields, particularly in health and public service. One grandson currently serves as Australia’s Consul-General in Lae, Papua New Guinea — a point of pride mentioned not for prestige, but as evidence of opportunities nurtured through education and encouragement.
Music, too, has remained central to their lives, alongside long-standing support for St Peter’s Lutheran College and the Indooroopilly Lutheran congregation. These communities were not simply places they attended, but places they helped sustain.
Education, Music and Faith as Cornerstones
Much of this history was recounted during Max’s anniversary speech, delivered with trademark wit, warmth and intellectual flourish. Drawing on his classical background, he likened Freda’s steadfast love to that of Penelope for Odysseus — enduring, faithful and strong across time. He spoke of ancestors who migrated from Germany in the nineteenth century, of chance encounters and near-misses that shaped family lines, and of how lives quietly intertwine across generations.
Yet the heart of his speech belonged to Freda. After 70 years, Max told the room, he would happily do it all again.
Asked afterwards about the secret to a long and happy marriage, the couple offered no grand theory. Love, patience, understanding and trust, they said — practised daily, over a lifetime.
As the afternoon drew to a close, conversations lingered and music drifted through the room. Max and Freda remained seated together, sharing smiles and memories, surrounded by the living legacy of their union.
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Published 7-Jan-2025
